Or Do You?
Rant of the Day:
One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don’t call you back. Granted, I am a hypocrite when it comes to matters to these but I don’t care I’m going to rant about it anyhow. I believe I’m a hypocrite when a person calls AND DOESN’T LEAVE A MESSAGE. If you don’t leave a message, I will always assume I don’t have to call you back. But if you leave a message, I think a timely response (within the next 24 hours) is appropriate and considerate. REAL MEN return calls.
Okay, a few exceptions may apply to the aforementioned cardinal rule:
- You are on vacation and have no access to your phone and the caller did not know this fact. Wait a minute, a person may very well say “Hey, I’m on vacation. Won’t be responding to messages until so and so forth” So toss this exception out
- Your phone is dead or does not ring or does pick up messages.
**This has happened to me once. I was not getting my messages for 24 hours for some bizarre reason (DAMN YOU HOMIES! DAMN YOU!!!!) and heh heh heh, one of the messages (all names will not be used to protect the guilty/innocent (it’s all the same to me nowadays))
“…Let me analyze this correctly…I call you and you don’t pick up your phone (sidenote: that is acceptable behavior. I’m deaf as a bunny. Wait a minute, are bunnies deaf?) , I leave a message and you don’t call me back. Hmm… I don’t think you…” okay enough. BUT in my defense, I DID not receive this voicemail till 2 days later. That sucks. But that is an acceptable exception. Phone service delay (I hate Verizon. bastards) - To reject a person because “it’s you not them” when in actuality, it IS THEM but you want them to think it is you. In EITHER case, I have been rejected as such (I have no pride) 3 times. Hmm.
Speaking of which.
BEST WAYS I HAVE BEEN REJECTED (Take note future suitors)
Wait, wait. Maybe I should clarify my terms first.
“Seeing” –been on more than 3 dates. Not necessarily boyfriend/girlfriend but most likely sleeping with the person anyway.
“Dating” –been on a couple of drinks, been on a couple of outings. An interest is assumed. All or most outings are one on one (this is complicated because a lot of my close friends are guys and I tend to be better on a one on one basis rather than a group type thing. This is a tricky one.) Either little or no affection has been admitted or attempted. Scariness factor is high.
“Just friends” — Reader, TAKE NOTE! This is a very delicate issue when it comes to people you have been seeing (with dating, it’s easy). You have to value a person as an equal but forget you ever slept with each other or be able to look past it without uh..looking back. People like me with memory relapses, it is easy. People who hold grudges against anything (from ants to fathers)…this will not work. So don’t even attempt to be friends with an ex or someone you “used to see”. Every single person I have “seen”, I am still very very good friends with and talk to (usually) on a weekly and even sometimes a daily basis.
Okay, so…on to…
BEST WAYS I HAVE BEEN REJECTED:
- The second guy I have ever “seen” was the best one of all (he knows who he is). He took me out to pizza and said out front what the problem was and broke it off cleanly and kept true to the “I still want to see you. But not in that way” Although, AT THE TIME, I felt the floor go beneath me (Rejection is never nice even if you (the rejector) sort of like the person)…I have always respected his honesty and his upfrontness. KUDOS to YOU..second guy (hee hee)
- A guy I was dating last summer. He called but he then..he would delay his calls further and further and it took longer and longer to hear from him. He called so much less frequently (is that a proper sentence?) where it got to a point where I, being the independent woman, would just find more activities to occupy my time so I would not think of such trivial matters. It got to a point where we just didn’t call each other anymore and are polite to each other at parties. But it wasn’t abrupt. He did it in a very slow and deliberate way. So it actually didn’t hurt at all. (Drug addict)
Okay, that’s all. Everyone else’s rejection sucked major ass.
TOP THREE REJECTIONS THAT SUCKED ASS (and made me a bitter woman..half the time.)
- He ignored me. He was rude to me. (We worked together). But you know what? It was good that he did that because it taught me what to expect of a “regular” guy. Guys don’t know how to handle rejection and it took a part of me to say “Self, you have to be bigger than that” and accept that. And, guess what. We got over it in 3 months. We still talk and we talk pretty candidly. He said I was the first girl that he ahem (slept) with and he can still talk to. I’m telling you, it takes a certain type of person to look past the physical intimateness and past mishaps (they are ONLY human) and not to take it personally.
- A guy I was seeing told me matter of factly. But so matter of factly that it showed he had no compassion and it didn’t mean anything to him. EVEN if it doesn’t MEAN ANYTHING TO YOU, pretend it did…even a little bit. Being so unfeeling about such matters is worse than ignoring you. At least when he is ignoring you, There’s a feeling of guilt, anger, and/or hostility…which means the rejector cared about that person (you) even if for a little while. The “selfless,cold, and composed” complex DRIVES ME CRAZY
- He stopped calling. (see aforementioned rant about not calling) Umm. The first rejection in my life so it still scars.
Well, that’s all for REJECTION. Actually that’s exactly how many times I’ve been rejected. 5 times. (probably due to lack of game, again)
IN OTHER NEWS:
**STICK SHIFT: I think I finally get the bugger. Yesterday I went all day without STALLING! I still squeal a bit but it’s not as major as the first three days. I still jerk when switching from one to two but I’LL GET IT WHETHER IT’S THE LAST THING I DO!!!!
**NEW JOB: I hate my job. I need a new one. Customer Service jobs is a form of torture in third world countries, yet we accept it as a form of work. Not so. We need to wake up the minds of the 16-25 year olds. To a more deliberate form of torture: The FULL TIME JOB (at least you get health benefits. Oooh..don’t get me started on health benefits. the US SYSTEM IS AN ASSHOLE. another time. deep breath, deep breath)
**I MISS NYC That’s all I have to say about that.
**ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE: This is an affliction that affects the majority of the population. Just because you went to college and graduated or because you read a lot of books doesn’t mean SHIT. Application towards life and relationships is key. I’m not saying I’m more INTELLIGENT than YOU ARE (Nyah, nyah, nyah). But I know that because I read a lot doesn’t mean SHIT.
Oh, and the movie. I love Haley Joel Osment. I hope to future works and I hope he doesn’t fall into the dreaded child star syndrome.
Okay, as everyone says, the ending is sort of hokey. But I personally like the aliens. I like how spielberg took that risk and tried to get away with it. Great people do great risks and usually end in failure (as many people believe with the movie) BUT I LOVE THAT HE DIDN’T PLAY IT SAFE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE DOES IN HOLLYWOOD. KUDOS TO SPIELBERG.
Otherwise, I liked it. I love the metaphor of using love as a toy (which a LOT of people do) and the serious side effects, the constant comparison to a classic fairy tale and the issues of morality and ethics. Good good thinking movie. and jude law is hot.
I need a lover robot (okay, calm down)
3 MORE THINGS:
Random Horoscopes:
Cancers: YOU ARE LOVED BY EVERYONE. TALENTED, CHAMRING, LOYAL AND TRUE, It will be hard to fight off the admirers..just don’t use a stick. Those same people will be needed to help you conquer the universe.
Gemini: You know what? Eating Tacos is bad. Don’t do it today. Oh, a buy a dvd for your cancer friend. OFFICE SPACE a good one (only 15 bucks at Walmart)
Capricorn: Watch out for “the leaves”. You have ashy knees…put some lotion on that sucker. Do a good deed today: Buy a new dvd or a new greatest hits selection for anyone born on July 18th. Some good suggestions: BEST IN SHOW, THE USUAL SUSPECTS SPECIAL EDITION, YOU CAN COUNT ON ME (A great indie film with Matthew Broderick and DUDE I forget her name. She played Meryl in THE TRUMAN SHOW) OR STEVIE WONDER’S GREATEST HITS> You’ll be glad you did.
CHECK OUT WHAT YOUR NAME MEANS:
Here’s mine (egocentric aren’t I today?)
Sharon
Your first name of Sharon has made you happiest when you are expressing in some creative, artistic way, and not conforming to strict routine. In a large group of comparative strangers, you are quiet and rather shy, unable to express yourself, not really wanting to become involved in conversation. On the other hand, among friends with whom you feel at ease, you are expressive, witty, and quite charming. These contrasting natures make it difficult for people to understand you and can lead to friction in your personal life. You are deep, philosophical, and refined, but your extremely sensitive nature causes you to become depressed and self-pitying over any real or imagined slight. If you are not careful, people take advantage of your generous nature. You find the beauties of nature, fine music, art, and literature–all the deeper things of life–inspiring. The reserved, sensitive side of your nature brings aloneness and friction into your life, although you crave affection and understanding. You must guard against emotional excesses, which could result in depletion of energy, creating a desire for quick-energy foods. You could suffer through skin irritations, blood conditions, back trouble, and later, through arthritis. Heart, lung, or bronchial weaknesses could also result.
You think that’s me?
CHECK OUT YOURS! http://www.kabalarians.com/gkh/kpquery0.htm
- Last Thing:
My friend John Kumpart has a film online. Give him some love:
John Kumpart
Here is the link….if it doesn’t work…try going to IFilm and
searching for the title…but it should work ’cause the link is from them.
Thanks!
http://www.ifilm.com/ifilm/product/film_info/0,3699,2421500,00.html
Hmm.. what else? That should be enough of junk reading for you today dear lovelies. UNSEXY SUMMER 2002!
payce!
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